52 Week Blog Challenge- Week 8

An Unforgettable Day in My Life…….

As you get older, different things will matter to you or not matter depending on the day of the week or year it is happening. The greatest celebration in most people lives is the day they were born. Some people get together with friends and family, some have parties, some spend time alone or some do nothing because they don’t care. I, on the other hand, love birthdays!! I love celebrating and telling people “happy birthday”

A couple years ago, I turned 40 years old and it had been a milestone for me. I had accomplished so much in the first 40 years of my life from graduating high school, getting my first full-time job, getting married, having 3 children and earning a college degree. I wanted to celebrate my big 40 better than any other birthday. My birthday falls on New Years Eve and while that sounds like a great celebration but for me, it has always fell during a time where friends are rare and family is scarce. I got Christmas and birthday presents together. No parties or big celebration just the ball drop at midnight. I did get a chance to go to New York with my daughter a couple weeks before my birthday and it was so fun.

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So this is what I looked like for my 40 years young birthday……

Later that night, I was looking forward to going out but that didn’t happen. My birthday, of course, was on a Sunday and it was football season!! So, you can guess where this is going. My husband’s team was playing that evening and my kids were working. I spent my birthday with no friends, no family and to make it worse when the games ended at 11 pm, I was taken to “Hooters” of all places for bad drinks and no food!

By the way, I do not like going to restaurants where “someone’s daughter, sister, mother” is wearing basically underwear!! Never could understand why it is okay for establishments allow that much skin to be exposed when serving food or drinks…so unsanitary. You can’t imagine what came next……

That Sunday night through Monday night, I couldn’t eat or sleep at all. I had this picture in my mind how I would’ve celebrated my 40th and I guess I didn’t take in account that everyone else has plans and my birthday is not in the center of everyone’s life. It was more important to me than it was to anyone else. So, I realized after that birthday, I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it. I still take a photo on my birthday and still try to go out to dinner with my family. If we don’t, it’s no big deal.

Me at 41 and 42… I spent my birthday the past year with family and friends going out to dinner and was very happy.

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52 Week Blog Challenge- Week 7

My Childhood Memories……..

When I think back to my childhood, I can remember that there were no cell phones and social media which is now the babysitter for almost every child and adult in life. We have gotten to the point where we wake up and first thing we think of is picking up our cellphone…right? Everything is all about technology which is a leading cause of some of the anxieties and stress in the world. Let me take you back to when times were simple.

When I was a kid, me and my family used to go to a Drive-In movie on the weekends and on our way there we used to pick up our favorites McDonald’s or what we in Cleveland like to call the best barbecue polish boys in town .

When I was a kid, I loved watching the classic cartoons like Tom and Jerry, Bugs Bunny. I also loved Scooby Doo and the Jetsons. When my dad would work the afternoon shift, right before he would leave we would watch The Flintstones, which was my favorite. For some reason, I can’t get into the new cartoons…too high tech and unrealistic.

I used to watch 70’s and 80’s television shows with my sister during the summer and some of our favorites were…

another one of our favorites was watching one particular game show and some 80’s music videos on……

In the 80’s, I was introduced to computers and because my dad was a programmer, I learned alot about using one and learning how to play games on them with what was called floppy discs. He was able to create once his own questions and answers to one popular game called Jeopardy….which was so much fun!!

My childhood memories in the 80’s and 90’s never included cellphones and social media just bikes and boom boxes. What if we all woke up one day and you had no cell phone, no beeper, no video game consoles, no social media, no Blu-ray, no high tech televisions, no dish, no Bluetooth, no laptops, no tablets and most importantly Alexa….what would you do?

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52 Week Blog Challenge-Week 6

I will be 52 in 10 years…hard to believe. I woke up one day and my angels were grown up and going on their first dates and picking out colleges to attend. If you are like me, you wish that time wouldn’t be a factor in living. We all have one life to live and I realized this New Year that I am not wasting a single moment being unhappy or mad at the world. We have plenty to be thankful for in the world and if we just took the time to stop and essentially “Smell the Roses”as they say, we would realize how great life can be. Everyday, you turn on your television, phone, computer or radio and hear about all the bad stuff happening in the world, I wish they would bring back those happier times we had long ago and then we all could appreciate life more. My New Years resolution this year:

Be Positive!

So what will I be doing 10 years from now…

I will definitely be traveling by plane, buses, trains or even cruises. I love to see other places and just the excitement of being on vacation.

I love to write so my blog will still be outlet to express myself to the world. I write only once a week but I like telling my story. I am working on becoming an author so it is a work in progress. Stay tuned.

My angels from the beginning to now…..I want to see them be married, have a career and have a family of their own because I do want to be a….

Grandma!! I love babies and kids so much and my children were such a joy to bring into this world. So so proud of all of them.

I would really appreciate it if technology and fashion went back to old days when everything was personal. These days we have lost the act of communication and have decided that everyone has to expose themselves or use fake pictures to make a statement. We are already starting to see clothes that are ripped up and bell bottomed, why not add everyone standing in line for concert tickets. Its all about the adventure. Let’s go back to face to face and meeting people.

Praying on this right now. Will the world finally see the light behind all the darkness? Will everyone start to appreciate what they have and smile everyday? Maybe? Maybe not? Do you think that it is possible to have the “Truman Show” all over again without the violence in the world? I wish for good health for my family and friends in 10 years and the many blessings along the way.

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52 Week Blog Challenge-Week 5

One of my favorite topic….Holidays!!

My Favorite Holiday is…..

You guessed it… Christmas!! I love this holiday because I am always feeling happy with music of the holiday season…

Songs like “Jingle Bells”, “Let It Snow” and “12 Days of Christmas”.

I also love the decorating of the tree while spending time with my family and eating great food….

All the beautiful colors and angel on top, not forgetting all the wonderful gifts and cards from loved ones and friends….

Last but not least, most of you all know but my birthday is New Years Eve so I get a chance to celebrate my birthday during the happiest time of the season…I turned 42 in 2019 and am still on fire.

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52 Week Blog Challenge-Week 4

So many times people ask you if you could travel anywhere, where would you go? For me, traveling means adventure and exploring new things. I would love to travel to places but because of resources, most of us can’t live out their own dreams. If I had to pick places to visit this would be the journey I would take….

5 Places I would like to visit

Statue of Liberty-

I have been to New York twice for short times and I am still in disbelief that I have not visited the Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island. I would love to spend a week in the summer in New York one day and see everything there is to see in New York.

2. Underwater Adventure-

I love all animals on land and water. I love water but have a fear of swimming and would love to go underwater and experience the wonders of sea creatures. Mind you, I would stay away from the dangerous ones, but I would like to be one with what God has created. I have always loved Spongebob Squarepants cartoon and Finding Nemo. My favorite sea creature is the sea turtle, “ToTalllyyy”

3. History in Washington-

When you are a kid, most schools take trips to see where history has been made. Unfortunately, my schools didn’t do these kind of field trips. I would love to visit the White House and all the other historic buildings in the history books.

4. In Space-

I am a Trekkie. Yes, I love sci-fi. I love anything that has to do with outer space. As a kid, I would love the field trips to the planetarium, although that is not the same as being there. I would like to go to space one day and see what all the fuss is about. I look out my window in back patio and look in the sky and admire it with all the stars and constellations.

5. Back In Time-

For as long as I can remember, I have always felt like I belonged in a different time. I am what you call an Old Soul. I have always appreciated the simple and classic things in life. I love classic cars like Buick’s and Cadillac’s. I enjoy music that has meaning and expression, not what is written today to put people down and disrespect women and men. I know that the 60’s wasn’t as friendly with certain ethnicity and cultures but it seems to me that today doesn’t seem to be any different. I am all about love and keeping the peace, I want to travel back in time just like Back to the Future.

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52 Week Blog Challenge- Week 3

Meet my Family

This is my family of 5. From right to left: (Picture taken New Years Eve 2019 to celebrate my 42nd birthday)

My husband Brian, 54, of 21 years. We have 3 beautiful children Brian Jr, who is 21 years old and attends college while pursing a career in Computer Science and works full-time. My youngest son Devon, who is 19 years and is on the Autism Spectrum. He is currently on his last year of high school and will be graduating with honors in 2020 and will be pursing a career in Culinary Arts in the fall. My daughter Briana, she is 16 and a straight A softball student. She just got her drivers license, will be graduating 2021 and pursuing a career in Marine Biology. We all live in sunny Florida and loving every minute of it.

Those are the love of my life and my whole world.

For 20 years, our family has had a tradition of taking our family photos from the moment my oldest was born to now.

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52 Week Blog Challenge-Week 2

Staying up late,

Eating cookies and cakes

with frosting and sprinkles all over

Not getting up early,

with my hair not so curly

I am flying high,

like a bird in flight

Going all over the map,

meeting new people and making memories

Playing card games and sharing meals,

making memories everyday

These are a few of my favorite things…. The End.

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52 week blog challenge-Week 1

Happy, Happy New Year everyone!!!🎉 I know it has been along time since I have written in my blog but now I am back with a new challenge! I will be answering questions every week and posting every Wednesday. I love these challenges so I am excited to get started!! So my first week is all about……

Well, I am going to be talking about my bestest friend in the whole world next to my husband is Charlene. Me and her have been friends for over 22 years and has always been there even when we didnt see each other. Before I moved away from my hometown 8 years ago, I knew her from long ago when I was 18 years old and I wanted to move out of my parents home. I wanted my independence. She was 26 years old when I met her but the second I met her, I knew we would have a great relationship. Dont get me wrong, we had our battles from time to time as roommates but we understood one another. Although life can change and people can change their circumstances, she has always been my #1 best friend in the world. She is dependable.

Meet My Best Friend

She lives in Ohio and I am here in Florida but distance doesnt stop us from talking every week and praying for one another lives. We finally were able to reunite in 2019 after years of not seeing each other and it was if time never went by. She came to Florida for her very first time and we spent time near the beaches.

While in town she was able to meet my 3 kids and reunite with my husband. The story behind my bestie, me and my husband…we all worked together. My husband years ago was our supervisor before him and I even thought about dating and I never thought that he was the man God sent to me. When my bestie saw everything we built together she was so happy for us. You never know who you end up spending your life with and it is still a surprise to me….even after being married almost 21 years😃

Fast-forward to today…she is and will always be my bestie.

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The Heart of a Dancer..A Queen Remembered

Good morning ladies and gentleman, as October comes to a close for the month, we remember those who have fought for their lives and are still fighting to this day to find a cure for a disease that comes in many forms. This month is Breast Cancer Awareness Month and our job is to be educated and aware of the early signs and stay united in the fight for the cure. Breast Cancer is not just a women’s disease but also a men’s disease.

I want to tell you a story about a daughter, mother, wife and accomplished dancer. Her name Sonia Vargas.

This is her story told by my dear friend Valerie Padilla, her daughter.

Sonia Vargas, 23 years ago never knew that simply taking a bathe would change her life forever. She worked as a secretary, was a dedicated mom, wife and she loved to dance. She taught her daughter Valerie, everything she knows about dancing, which I have witnessed first hand, from the Salsa, Tango, Fandango, Bolero and many more. Sonia was around 39 years old when she discovered a lump under her arm during a routine breast exam. Monthly exams of your breast are very important for early detection.

After discovering this lump, she immediately went to the doctor and had a mammogram done and they discovered a mass in the early stages. They were able to start her on chemo and began her fight. Sonia, a beautiful woman, lost all her hair and like most woman, the depression started and she felt she was no longer attractive. The family did everything they could to help her regain her confidence by buying her wigs and telling her she was beautiful everyday to keep her spirits up. Positive prayers and proper treatments made the cancer go away….so they thought.

One year later, the breast cancer that once was a distant memory, came back more aggresive. Sonia was given not alot of options accept for a masectomy. Women who are faced with the prospect of losing their breast, it is not an easy decision. We pride ourselves on how we look and in making this decision she decided to do nothing. Of course, the cancer decided to spread and it invaded so aggressively that it grew out of her body as a 3rd breast on her chest and became a part of her everyday life. She, like many women loved to look and smell good at all times and to have to live day by day with a growth on her chest, losing her hair and feeling sick all the time, it felt like she lost a big part of herself.

Her daughter Valerie, said that as her mom became sicker, she had to take care of her bathing and feeding her regularly. Valerie accounts that the growth smelled like rotten meat to everyone and people stared at her all the time. As the months went by, she became thin and frail and was admitted near Fathers Day of June 1998. The hospital she was admitted to was where she worked and she had the best care around her family and friends. When she was in the hospital, her doctor told her that it was so aggressive that chemo was not working and there was no cure.

She had to make another decision and she decided to keep it from her kids. Valerie was a teenager and being the oldest of 3 children, she felt helpless, pain and she wanted to do everything she could to take care of her mom. Her mom was her inspiration and hero growing up doing the dance group together and she just wanted to help her mom. After awhile, Sonia couldn’t speak but she could hear everyone. All her family, friends and co-workers did a prayer chain and sent flowers to lift her spirits.

October 24, 1998, Sonia Vargas got her wings at the age of 42 and left behind a spirit in her family that will last forever. It has been 21 years and Valerie celebrates life everyday for her.

Valerie and the women of her Empowerment Group just recently took a trip to Puerto Rico October 11, 2019 and we celebrated Valerie’s 43rd birthday!! Chapter 43 for Valerie was important to her and sharing her moms story touched all of us.

Her moms angelic looks, spirit, heart for dance, her love and caring for others and beautiful personality inside and out shines through her everyday.

Below is a chart of what to look for when you do your monthly breast exam. Early detention is the key.

I want to give a big thank you to Valerie Padilla for allowing me to share her mom’s story and to educate other women about the importance of early detection and treatments.

“Living my birthdays not just for me but for my mom’s life” Valerie Padilla

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My trip to Puerto Rico

I just got back from Puerto Rico on Tuesday October 15 after spending 4 days there and I have to say that it was so beautiful. This island was one of my many trips to take from my bucket list and I enjoyed myself immensely. I went with 7 other wonderful empowered women who I met through a facebook group called Valeries Empowerment Group. (click here) This group I have been a member of since 2018 and I am so grateful to have met all the many different women who are from New York and all over United States. We were celebrating Valeries 43rd birthday here in Puerto Rico. October 11, 2019 I left for Puerto Rico, flight was calm but I almost missed it because of the TSA lines. I hope one day the process gets a little better organized so that people dont get anxiety almost missing their flight. After arriving in Puerto Rico, I met the Queens from Ny at the airport and we all went to our beautiful villa located in San Juan. It was a 5 bedroom 2 bathroom Villa with a pool and great patio area. These are the Queens with Valeries empowerment shirts on. We stopped by a little restaurant in the city near Carolina, Puerto Rico called Carmin. A cute little outdoor establishment. I have to say that I had learn alot about spanish cuisines and speak the languages, which thanks to the ladies who spoke the language, I was able to feel like part of the culture. I ate what they say in Spanish as “Alitas de Pollo” and “Papas Fritas”
which means chicken wings and fries.“Muy Bien” (Very Good) I ended up eating a little off everyones plate, the ladies wanted me to try other spanish cuisines including 4 more chicken wings…I was so hungry, we were all starving from our flights…lol. Our next venture took us downtown to go dancing at Mijani Club in La Placita De Santurce for the pre-birthday celebration. We all got dressed up in our white outfits and dancing shoes for a night of drinking and dancing. Such a fun first night…these ladies know how to Party!! The next day, we were planning to visit Old San Juan for the day. The weather was so beautiful for sightseeing. Today was our Queen Valeries 43rd birthday!! First we stopped off at a neighborhood reataurant within walking distance of our Villa called Levis like jeans..lol We went there for breakfast and dinner the same day…thats how great it was! The restaurant felt so warm and comfortable for our party. Old San Juan was amazing…although the heat was brutal, we took comfort in the many treat carts around like smoothies and coco icees…so good. We also did a little shopping.We visited the city of Umbrellas on Fortaleza street. While visiting Old San Juan, I was told the story about the community of La Perla which was very interesting and sounds like something out of mobster movie. We visited a very beautiful church which looked like one of largest churches I had ever seen called the San Juan Bautista Cathedral.

The next day we went back to our favorite place Levis of course. We went home and had an afternoon family barbeque….so emotional for me and alot of us. Meeting so many of the ladies friends and relatives was wonderful. Hotdogs, hamburgers, drinks and unlimited cuisines to eat. Such a beautiful group ladies…indeed..inside and out❤ Monday morning we all had a nice picnic in Ocean Park beach…so peaceful. Going home was very emotional for me and the girls…we didnt want to go back at all. Our weekend was filled with love, support, crying, laughter, and just relaxation. We are planning our trip for next year already..cant wait to meet more Queens!! As I go back to Florida and they return to New York, I can honestly say that these women are truly my family. Now that I can check Puerto Rico off my list maybe next year I can see Hawaii…What you think?Thank you for reading all about my trip to Puerto Rico! Dont forget to like, comment, subcribe to my blog!!Also follow me on social media via:Twitter Pinterest Instagram