52 Week Blog Challenge- Week 30

A Life Lesson learned

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Family, Friends and Business Don’t Mix

Let me clarify. When I say family, friends and business don’t mix, I don’t mean owning a business and working together, I mean telling your business. Oil and water don’t mix.

Let me tell you a story….

I am 42 years old and I am a wife and mother and in another life I worked retail for almost 30 years. Even when I was younger, for some reason, I was never the type of person to make friends easily. There are just those people that either are too intimidating to be friended or people just don’t like them. I have always thought that I was too intimidating to people. People say I have a great heart and care alot about people. This is true. For some reason, I tend to care too much and it sometimes works for me but more often times it works against me. People who are caring, hurt on the inside and tend to overlook those who try to take advantage of them. I think I am fun person but it just seems like when people friend me they are looking for what they can get from me.

I am very proud of what I have accomplished in my life including my family and I tend to overshare out of fear that I will be found dis-interesting. Let me tell you…it has worked against me time and time again.

Even when you are talking to your family, be careful who you speak to about your business-everyone knows that your life is an open book when you are not around. I learned the hard way this past year and I had to stop talking and generalize everything. I’m on a path to talking about positive things in my life instead of negatives and keep my opinions to myself. I learn alot about people when I just listen to them and talk less. I found that women like to talk with one another and share with everyone male or female while men stay quiet about their life with women and only express their feelings among other men….men do gossip. Don’t talk about your marriage problems or how rotten your children are unless it is your counselor. Everyone has problems at home, this is no secret and the person you are telling them to, unless they are living that same situation, can’t give you advice or tell you what is best for you. So, I would suggest keeping these things to yourself, otherwise it came come back to bite you in the ass. It has been done on Reality Tv Shows…just saying.

If you do not want someone else to know your business, don’t tell it. If you have to have talk, focus the conversation on positive things in your life. Don’t speak of things you’re going to do, speak of what is already in motion and done. People like to talk about what you said you were going to do, so, if isn’t done and hasn’t started yet, don’t talk about it.

Plans are merely Procrastination while Actions are Goals set to be Completed. LS

So my life lesson learned is to listen more and talk less. The world needs more positive than negative in it. Gossip and talking about one another doesn’t solve any problems, all it does is divide us. I f you want to share your life, do it in such a way that involves inclusion like a project or a mission you would like to complete. Empower not bring down. We all have to exist in this world and if we spent less time with misery loves company and more on love driving hate away, the world would be a level less stressful.

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"Boss Lady" is what they call me.. I am mom of 3, wife, and blogger. I live, laugh, love life to the fullest!

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