52 Week Blog Challenge- Week 30

A Life Lesson learned

Family, Friends and Business Don’t Mix

Let me clarify. When I say family, friends and business don’t mix, I don’t mean owning a business and working together, I mean telling your business. Oil and water don’t mix.

Let me tell you a story….

I am 42 years old and I am a wife and mother and in another life I worked retail for almost 30 years. Even when I was younger, for some reason, I was never the type of person to make friends easily. There are just those people that either are too intimidating to be friended or people just don’t like them. I have always thought that I was too intimidating to people. People say I have a great heart and care alot about people. This is true. For some reason, I tend to care too much and it sometimes works for me but more often times it works against me. People who are caring, hurt on the inside and tend to overlook those who try to take advantage of them. I think I am fun person but it just seems like when people friend me they are looking for what they can get from me.

I am very proud of what I have accomplished in my life including my family and I tend to overshare out of fear that I will be found dis-interesting. Let me tell you…it has worked against me time and time again.

Even when you are talking to your family, be careful who you speak to about your business-everyone knows that your life is an open book when you are not around. I learned the hard way this past year and I had to stop talking and generalize everything. I’m on a path to talking about positive things in my life instead of negatives and keep my opinions to myself. I learn alot about people when I just listen to them and talk less. I found that women like to talk with one another and share with everyone male or female while men stay quiet about their life with women and only express their feelings among other men….men do gossip. Don’t talk about your marriage problems or how rotten your children are unless it is your counselor. Everyone has problems at home, this is no secret and the person you are telling them to, unless they are living that same situation, can’t give you advice or tell you what is best for you. So, I would suggest keeping these things to yourself, otherwise it came come back to bite you in the ass. It has been done on Reality Tv Shows…just saying.

If you do not want someone else to know your business, don’t tell it. If you have to have talk, focus the conversation on positive things in your life. Don’t speak of things you’re going to do, speak of what is already in motion and done. People like to talk about what you said you were going to do, so, if isn’t done and hasn’t started yet, don’t talk about it.

Plans are merely Procrastination while Actions are Goals set to be Completed. LS

So my life lesson learned is to listen more and talk less. The world needs more positive than negative in it. Gossip and talking about one another doesn’t solve any problems, all it does is divide us. I f you want to share your life, do it in such a way that involves inclusion like a project or a mission you would like to complete. Empower not bring down. We all have to exist in this world and if we spent less time with misery loves company and more on love driving hate away, the world would be a level less stressful.

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Have You Written Your List?

So Today……Guess What?

IT’S Our 21st Wedding Anniversary Today!

Thinking over the years, we have come to the realization that everyone is different and nothing will ever change that. People are always going to be Right and Wrong in the things they do or say as an active part of society. People will always feel Anger and Love towards others who they cross paths with in their lifetime. What has to be realized and done is that everyone take responsibility for who they are and own up to their differences and improve themselves accordingly.

Relationships whether individual, friendship, family, couples can always use improvement. I have come up with a post that will make people think twice as to how different people can be. Me and my husband are celebrating 21 years of marriage today and we’ve decided to write a list of the positive and negatives of what we admire and dislike about one another. We’ve exchanged our list with one another and talked about it and realized things about one another that we have overlooked over the years.

Being together for so long and the fights, battles and making a way back to one another has just made us stronger individuals for it. We are committed to working on our faults individually and spend the rest of our lives appreciating each other’s essence.

April 9, 1999 & April 9, 2020

We want to share with you guys our list because we think that it is important to make ourselves vulnerable to compliments as well as criticism. We are trying to grow in any way possible and we take it one day at a time.

This is Mine for Him….

I Love….

He takes care of his children financially and emotionally.
He makes me laugh and is very charming.
He is a great cook.
He is passionate about being successful and helping his family reach their goals.
He gives me compliments about my looks without asking.
He is very considerate and sweet to senior citizens to others.
He is a lover of all animals.
He is loyal and doesn’t hold grudges.

I Do Not Love…..

When he complains about everything from dawn to dusk.
When he is late for everything that is not important to his interest.
When he ask advice about something and then says you’re wrong just to see what you’ll say.
When he doesn’t have trust in anyone including his family.
When he apologizes for behavior that he repeats over and over with no adjustment.
When he is pessimistic about everything in life, nothing but failure before hope.
When he redirects feelings or experiences one has back on himself to get attention.
When he uses his age as an excuse to prove how much smarter he is.

This is His for Me…..

I Love…..

She is organized and detail- oriented.
She is smart, creative and intelligent.
She is independent.
She is funny and has a good sense of humor.
She is giving and unselfish.
She is not materialistic.
She keeps up her physical appearance.
She keeps the house clean.

I Do Not Love….

She stays mad too long periods of time.
She is too quick to levy punishment on kids.
She is uncompromising when you move furniture or rooms to new planograms.
She drives car brakes and accelerator heavy footed.
She always put more stuff in shopping cart at store that wasn’t on list originally.
She won’t commit to specifically scheduled intimacy dates and times but would rather be spontaneous.
She watches too many shows with real life sadness, unhappiness, and despair.
She doesn’t relish, reminisce, talk about things from our family’s 22 year timeline of fun times and vacations enough…the fun past memories are important to me.

Life is Precious…Live It!!

Last year, I wrote a post called Marriage and Relationships Are Like Owning a Business and it talked a lot about how every relationship has to be attentive to and like anything when one doesn’t pay attention to the books or communicate, it all goes haywire and it can end. See link below:

Marriage and Relationships-February 14, 2019

If I had any advice to give to people getting married or are looking for one thing to remember throughout their adventure together is:

“Prepare for the fight of your life. You will have blessings and challenges, look at one another and always remember the first time you fell in love”.

Okay so, that’s it!!

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52 Week Blog Challenge- Week 8

An Unforgettable Day in My Life…….

As you get older, different things will matter to you or not matter depending on the day of the week or year it is happening. The greatest celebration in most people lives is the day they were born. Some people get together with friends and family, some have parties, some spend time alone or some do nothing because they don’t care. I, on the other hand, love birthdays!! I love celebrating and telling people “happy birthday”

A couple years ago, I turned 40 years old and it had been a milestone for me. I had accomplished so much in the first 40 years of my life from graduating high school, getting my first full-time job, getting married, having 3 children and earning a college degree. I wanted to celebrate my big 40 better than any other birthday. My birthday falls on New Years Eve and while that sounds like a great celebration but for me, it has always fell during a time where friends are rare and family is scarce. I got Christmas and birthday presents together. No parties or big celebration just the ball drop at midnight. I did get a chance to go to New York with my daughter a couple weeks before my birthday and it was so fun.

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So this is what I looked like for my 40 years young birthday……

Later that night, I was looking forward to going out but that didn’t happen. My birthday, of course, was on a Sunday and it was football season!! So, you can guess where this is going. My husband’s team was playing that evening and my kids were working. I spent my birthday with no friends, no family and to make it worse when the games ended at 11 pm, I was taken to “Hooters” of all places for bad drinks and no food!

By the way, I do not like going to restaurants where “someone’s daughter, sister, mother” is wearing basically underwear!! Never could understand why it is okay for establishments allow that much skin to be exposed when serving food or drinks…so unsanitary. You can’t imagine what came next……

That Sunday night through Monday night, I couldn’t eat or sleep at all. I had this picture in my mind how I would’ve celebrated my 40th and I guess I didn’t take in account that everyone else has plans and my birthday is not in the center of everyone’s life. It was more important to me than it was to anyone else. So, I realized after that birthday, I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it. I still take a photo on my birthday and still try to go out to dinner with my family. If we don’t, it’s no big deal.

Me at 41 and 42… I spent my birthday the past year with family and friends going out to dinner and was very happy.

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52 Week Blog Challenge-Week 6

I will be 52 in 10 years…hard to believe. I woke up one day and my angels were grown up and going on their first dates and picking out colleges to attend. If you are like me, you wish that time wouldn’t be a factor in living. We all have one life to live and I realized this New Year that I am not wasting a single moment being unhappy or mad at the world. We have plenty to be thankful for in the world and if we just took the time to stop and essentially “Smell the Roses”as they say, we would realize how great life can be. Everyday, you turn on your television, phone, computer or radio and hear about all the bad stuff happening in the world, I wish they would bring back those happier times we had long ago and then we all could appreciate life more. My New Years resolution this year:

Be Positive!

So what will I be doing 10 years from now…

I will definitely be traveling by plane, buses, trains or even cruises. I love to see other places and just the excitement of being on vacation.

I love to write so my blog will still be outlet to express myself to the world. I write only once a week but I like telling my story. I am working on becoming an author so it is a work in progress. Stay tuned.

My angels from the beginning to now…..I want to see them be married, have a career and have a family of their own because I do want to be a….

Grandma!! I love babies and kids so much and my children were such a joy to bring into this world. So so proud of all of them.

I would really appreciate it if technology and fashion went back to old days when everything was personal. These days we have lost the act of communication and have decided that everyone has to expose themselves or use fake pictures to make a statement. We are already starting to see clothes that are ripped up and bell bottomed, why not add everyone standing in line for concert tickets. Its all about the adventure. Let’s go back to face to face and meeting people.

Praying on this right now. Will the world finally see the light behind all the darkness? Will everyone start to appreciate what they have and smile everyday? Maybe? Maybe not? Do you think that it is possible to have the “Truman Show” all over again without the violence in the world? I wish for good health for my family and friends in 10 years and the many blessings along the way.

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52 Week Blog Challenge- Week 3

Meet my Family

This is my family of 5. From right to left: (Picture taken New Years Eve 2019 to celebrate my 42nd birthday)

My husband Brian, 54, of 21 years. We have 3 beautiful children Brian Jr, who is 21 years old and attends college while pursing a career in Computer Science and works full-time. My youngest son Devon, who is 19 years and is on the Autism Spectrum. He is currently on his last year of high school and will be graduating with honors in 2020 and will be pursing a career in Culinary Arts in the fall. My daughter Briana, she is 16 and a straight A softball student. She just got her drivers license, will be graduating 2021 and pursuing a career in Marine Biology. We all live in sunny Florida and loving every minute of it.

Those are the love of my life and my whole world.

For 20 years, our family has had a tradition of taking our family photos from the moment my oldest was born to now.

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52 Week Blog Challenge-Week 2

Staying up late,

Eating cookies and cakes

with frosting and sprinkles all over

Not getting up early,

with my hair not so curly

I am flying high,

like a bird in flight

Going all over the map,

meeting new people and making memories

Playing card games and sharing meals,

making memories everyday

These are a few of my favorite things…. The End.

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The Heart of a Dancer..A Queen Remembered

Good morning ladies and gentleman, as October comes to a close for the month, we remember those who have fought for their lives and are still fighting to this day to find a cure for a disease that comes in many forms. This month is Breast Cancer Awareness Month and our job is to be educated and aware of the early signs and stay united in the fight for the cure. Breast Cancer is not just a women’s disease but also a men’s disease.

I want to tell you a story about a daughter, mother, wife and accomplished dancer. Her name Sonia Vargas.

This is her story told by my dear friend Valerie Padilla, her daughter.

Sonia Vargas, 23 years ago never knew that simply taking a bathe would change her life forever. She worked as a secretary, was a dedicated mom, wife and she loved to dance. She taught her daughter Valerie, everything she knows about dancing, which I have witnessed first hand, from the Salsa, Tango, Fandango, Bolero and many more. Sonia was around 39 years old when she discovered a lump under her arm during a routine breast exam. Monthly exams of your breast are very important for early detection.

After discovering this lump, she immediately went to the doctor and had a mammogram done and they discovered a mass in the early stages. They were able to start her on chemo and began her fight. Sonia, a beautiful woman, lost all her hair and like most woman, the depression started and she felt she was no longer attractive. The family did everything they could to help her regain her confidence by buying her wigs and telling her she was beautiful everyday to keep her spirits up. Positive prayers and proper treatments made the cancer go away….so they thought.

One year later, the breast cancer that once was a distant memory, came back more aggresive. Sonia was given not alot of options accept for a masectomy. Women who are faced with the prospect of losing their breast, it is not an easy decision. We pride ourselves on how we look and in making this decision she decided to do nothing. Of course, the cancer decided to spread and it invaded so aggressively that it grew out of her body as a 3rd breast on her chest and became a part of her everyday life. She, like many women loved to look and smell good at all times and to have to live day by day with a growth on her chest, losing her hair and feeling sick all the time, it felt like she lost a big part of herself.

Her daughter Valerie, said that as her mom became sicker, she had to take care of her bathing and feeding her regularly. Valerie accounts that the growth smelled like rotten meat to everyone and people stared at her all the time. As the months went by, she became thin and frail and was admitted near Fathers Day of June 1998. The hospital she was admitted to was where she worked and she had the best care around her family and friends. When she was in the hospital, her doctor told her that it was so aggressive that chemo was not working and there was no cure.

She had to make another decision and she decided to keep it from her kids. Valerie was a teenager and being the oldest of 3 children, she felt helpless, pain and she wanted to do everything she could to take care of her mom. Her mom was her inspiration and hero growing up doing the dance group together and she just wanted to help her mom. After awhile, Sonia couldn’t speak but she could hear everyone. All her family, friends and co-workers did a prayer chain and sent flowers to lift her spirits.

October 24, 1998, Sonia Vargas got her wings at the age of 42 and left behind a spirit in her family that will last forever. It has been 21 years and Valerie celebrates life everyday for her.

Valerie and the women of her Empowerment Group just recently took a trip to Puerto Rico October 11, 2019 and we celebrated Valerie’s 43rd birthday!! Chapter 43 for Valerie was important to her and sharing her moms story touched all of us.

Her moms angelic looks, spirit, heart for dance, her love and caring for others and beautiful personality inside and out shines through her everyday.

Below is a chart of what to look for when you do your monthly breast exam. Early detention is the key.

I want to give a big thank you to Valerie Padilla for allowing me to share her mom’s story and to educate other women about the importance of early detection and treatments.

“Living my birthdays not just for me but for my mom’s life” Valerie Padilla

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31 Day Challenge-Day 27

What makes me feel better and has never failed?

MUSIC

I love the sound of music. I love all different genres. I am a fan of how music can soothe the soul. If I want to escape within myself it is my way to solitude. Music lowers my blood pressure, it balances my mood and it is very therapeutic for my disabilities and it also eases my anxiety.

That’s all I got!!

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31 Day Challenge-Day 26

I have been reading so many blogs lately and I have followed a lot but these blogs listed below have been very consistent with their content and I enjoy them tremendously. Let me share with you my 5 favorite blogs…here we go.

Life with Charli– A blog by a wonderful lady named Charli Dee who has won numerous blogging awards and she is inspirational with her posts and she supports the blogging community. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram. Subscribe to her blog here: Life with Charli
Ashlee Nicole Explained– A blog by an energetic lady named Ashlee Nicole. She is new to blogging but has been through a lot and is willing to open up to the world and let people know it’s going to work out, always. Follow her out on Twitter and Instagram. Subscribe to her blog here: Ashlee Nicole Explained

3. 11 Years Of Nappies- Great, Great lady named Simone Phillips, a mom who I met a couple months ago who does blogs about inspirational women and tells their stories for the world…including myself. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram. Click here to subscribe to her blog:11 Years of Nappies Check out my feature by clicking here:Mom Crush Monday-Me

4. Pencils and Popcans- A real down to earth lady who is into entertainment and is a mom of three like I am. Her name is Tanya Kuzmanovic and she if a freelance writer who has great recipes, gives reviews on movies and has had lots of work published. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram. Subscribe to her blog here:Pencils and Popcans

5. Ramblings of a Neurotic Writer- This young lady, her name is Vada is on the other side of the world and loves to travel and read. She writes poetry and takes you on some great adventures with the best places to eat and drink in London. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram. Click here to subscribe: Ramblings of a Neurotic Writer

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31 Day Challenge-Day 21

Day 21…hmmm…something I miss. This I had to think about a bit because there are a lot of things I miss but If I were to look at the last 25 years, I’ m looking at my childhood and how things were when I was a teenager. I can remember the words…”Pounding the Pavement”

Job Market has changed dramatically. Newspaper and flyer ads on bulletin boards. It used to be that you walk from employer to employer to fill out job applications and meet face to face with people who were your boss…now…fill out an application online and wait for talent acquisition to email, then first interviewer to contact for interview then you interview with someone else who may or may not be your boss…keep your application on file. This application process is convenient if you have a computer or cell phone but for others it creates a lot of eliminated candidates. My daughter is 16 now and she is doing it the old-fashioned way and she has had 2 interviews so far. Personal connection is lost between employer and candidate online.

2. Being able to get The News only on television. It seems like every time I turn around, I am unable to shield myself from all the bad news and anxieties of this world. I really believe that as the world gets worse with global warming, bombings and lack of respect for the people who want to wake up every morning and live their life, we will never see the light of day. I really don’t care for politics, I don’t like hearing about how much worse the people who run our government are doing. I am so tired of people not being able to leave their homes because they are afraid and with this happening…the rise in mental health issues and sicknesses allows for government and drug companies to make more money. It sucks!! Can we just go back to having 6pm and 11 pm news only and cartoons with great movies in between?

3. Last but not least…Courtships. Why is it every time I turn the television on I see teen pregnancy shows or couples divorcing after 1 year. I have been married 20 years and I have seen it all. These days it seems like it is harder to get a mate and people are just settling with the first person that looks their way. While they are looking, it seems there is the rush to procreate and have no commitments. What has happened to asking a girl out, taking her on many dates, getting know each other and then talking about plans to get married then have a family….everything is all backwards and twisted now!! Maybe I am old-fashioned but I think there wouldn’t be confusion if we were made to only be attracted to who we are supposed to be with and everyone else look like aliens…lol.

That’s all I got for you until next time….stay tuned for tomorrow for Day 21.

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