The Heart of a Dancer..A Queen Remembered

Good morning ladies and gentleman, as October comes to a close for the month, we remember those who have fought for their lives and are still fighting to this day to find a cure for a disease that comes in many forms. This month is Breast Cancer Awareness Month and our job is to be educated and aware of the early signs and stay united in the fight for the cure. Breast Cancer is not just a women’s disease but also a men’s disease.

I want to tell you a story about a daughter, mother, wife and accomplished dancer. Her name Sonia Vargas.

This is her story told by my dear friend Valerie Padilla, her daughter.

Sonia Vargas, 23 years ago never knew that simply taking a bathe would change her life forever. She worked as a secretary, was a dedicated mom, wife and she loved to dance. She taught her daughter Valerie, everything she knows about dancing, which I have witnessed first hand, from the Salsa, Tango, Fandango, Bolero and many more. Sonia was around 39 years old when she discovered a lump under her arm during a routine breast exam. Monthly exams of your breast are very important for early detection.

After discovering this lump, she immediately went to the doctor and had a mammogram done and they discovered a mass in the early stages. They were able to start her on chemo and began her fight. Sonia, a beautiful woman, lost all her hair and like most woman, the depression started and she felt she was no longer attractive. The family did everything they could to help her regain her confidence by buying her wigs and telling her she was beautiful everyday to keep her spirits up. Positive prayers and proper treatments made the cancer go away….so they thought.

One year later, the breast cancer that once was a distant memory, came back more aggresive. Sonia was given not alot of options accept for a masectomy. Women who are faced with the prospect of losing their breast, it is not an easy decision. We pride ourselves on how we look and in making this decision she decided to do nothing. Of course, the cancer decided to spread and it invaded so aggressively that it grew out of her body as a 3rd breast on her chest and became a part of her everyday life. She, like many women loved to look and smell good at all times and to have to live day by day with a growth on her chest, losing her hair and feeling sick all the time, it felt like she lost a big part of herself.

Her daughter Valerie, said that as her mom became sicker, she had to take care of her bathing and feeding her regularly. Valerie accounts that the growth smelled like rotten meat to everyone and people stared at her all the time. As the months went by, she became thin and frail and was admitted near Fathers Day of June 1998. The hospital she was admitted to was where she worked and she had the best care around her family and friends. When she was in the hospital, her doctor told her that it was so aggressive that chemo was not working and there was no cure.

She had to make another decision and she decided to keep it from her kids. Valerie was a teenager and being the oldest of 3 children, she felt helpless, pain and she wanted to do everything she could to take care of her mom. Her mom was her inspiration and hero growing up doing the dance group together and she just wanted to help her mom. After awhile, Sonia couldn’t speak but she could hear everyone. All her family, friends and co-workers did a prayer chain and sent flowers to lift her spirits.

October 24, 1998, Sonia Vargas got her wings at the age of 42 and left behind a spirit in her family that will last forever. It has been 21 years and Valerie celebrates life everyday for her.

Valerie and the women of her Empowerment Group just recently took a trip to Puerto Rico October 11, 2019 and we celebrated Valerie’s 43rd birthday!! Chapter 43 for Valerie was important to her and sharing her moms story touched all of us.

Her moms angelic looks, spirit, heart for dance, her love and caring for others and beautiful personality inside and out shines through her everyday.

Below is a chart of what to look for when you do your monthly breast exam. Early detention is the key.

I want to give a big thank you to Valerie Padilla for allowing me to share her mom’s story and to educate other women about the importance of early detection and treatments.

“Living my birthdays not just for me but for my mom’s life” Valerie Padilla

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Book Review #1:Rachel Hollis

Hey hey guys, I am doing something a little bit different these coming months where I am going to introduce you to my world of reading. Now, I will admit, I have not read a book all the way through since 50 Shades of Grey Part 1 came out but I have always wanted to read interesting works by other writers. The book I am going to review this month is a book written by a great women who loves to help other women get out of their way and see what the potential that they already have. Growing from tragedy and being able to be successful in life with some bumps along the way is real-life for her and she wants you to know-ITs Normal! Introducing a lady I highly respect for her courage and empowerment of other: Rachel Hollis

I read this book from cover to cover and was amazed at the similiarities we have. I thought I was the only one thinking and going through it. For those of you who do not know who Rachel Hollis is, she is a Mom of 3 boys and a 1 girl, wife to Dave Hollis and founder of a lifestyle website TheChicSite.com and Ceo of her own Media company. She has alot of followers online via instagram, facebook, youtube etc. She is a woman who likes to tell it like it is, she encourages, enlightens and works to help others acheive the same sense of confidence she exudes throughout everything she does with the help of God.

I am going to review this book in 4 parts:

  • Why did I pick this book to read?
  • What part of the book, really hit home for me: (ex. made me cry or have a aha moment)?
  • What is one thing I took away from the book that I will change in my life?
  • How would I rate this book out of 5 stars?

Rachel Hollis: Girl, Wash Your Face

  • I picked this book because it came highly recommended online. I was curious as to what washing my face meant so I said this might be a great book just by the title, so I bought it. I never realized when I opened it, I would never be able to put it down. It spoke to me so well. Everything, well almost everything, was so similiar to my life I couldn’t believe that this nice young lady had gone through all that and still managed to be a great women waking up everyday helping people with her wisdom and lending a helping hand.
  • A part in the book that really hit home for me was Chapter 15: I Will Never Get Past This- when she talked about her family. Not being as close as she wanted to be after the tradegy just trying to salvage what was left of her relationships and picking up the peices and moving forward in church and counseling, which is always the best medicine. I cried through the whole chapter.
  • One thing she stressed so much in her book about it being happy with who you are. It doesnt matter what you didnt accomplish or who hurt you in your past, you are responsible for your own happiness. Never let others believe you are never good enough to try new things or pick where you left off with years ago. Always try to be you and be happy for you not anyone else. I realizes that in trying to make others happy all at once, I have made myself unhappy. I have decided to run away from toxic or negative things and let others be unhappy by themselves and take care of me first. Be there after I am taken care of then console others.
  • 5- star rating from me for original content, very personable and uplifting!

Looking forward to reading her other book:

Girl, Stop Apoligizing

Ordered my copy from Barnes and Nobles today and will start reading after my 2nd book which is from a new first time author who writes about how the word of God influences your life processes everyday. Click link below to purchase Marcus Myrick’s

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She Cave….Finally!!

For many years…women have been trying figure out why there has never been a place a woman could get some peace and quiet. Most men who shop for homes or apartments are always looking for a bachelor pad…women on the other hand are looking for functional space. Well, I have been through both and being a mom of 3 and wife for over 20 years…I need my space!

So I did something about it. I cleared out one of our sheds one day into the other…actually I put everything outside and the kids put it in the other shed during a rain storm. It was so wonderful to see them all work together. Stage 1 of my shed was cleanup. You wouldnt believe how much dust and dirt is in a shed along with bugs…ugh. Step 2 was finding furniture. It wasnt hard for me to find some stuff to take from the house but I needed a really good sofa. One day me and my husband was doing our 3 mile walk one-day and I passed by a neighbor of ours and they were getting rid of a futon which at Walmart you can get 300$…omg Me, Sr and Jr loaded it up in the van about midnight and checked it out and it passed inspection-YaY!! Step 3..last step was getting a few accessories like a fridge and air conditioner-it can get Hot in sheds.Everything in its place…tada

I love it so much!! Let me tell you, I have had so many movie nights and it so peaceful in my She Cave. Some of the products I purchased:

I have always wanted a hammock and I got one. I got most of my items on Walmart.com or in person like these items:

and a couple pillows along with my Live, Laugh, Love rug.

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Toys and Imagination……Then and Now

Did your Toy Box look like this?

Or this….from handmade toys to toys you hold in your hand, toys have changed so much over the past 40 years.  Kids as young as 3 years old are getting electronic toys for Christmas and birthdays and the prices for these items are extraordinary. 

Remember Family Game Night…Did it look like this? 

Or does it look like this?

   Not everyone knows how to work a game controller but it seems as though in order for people to spend time together, they have to know how to play the latest video games.  Board games and cards were more inviting and made room for everyone to play.

Remember arcade games….this was how I played games….

This is how they play now….

PlayStation, X-Box and other game consoles use these controllers for gaming.  From my experience with these, there are 10 or more different commands for using these and you have to use them at the same time..phew.  Hats off to those who are able to keep up.  Don’t get me wrong, some of the games are really fun but I would rather have three buttons on my joystick(which is what we called it)…lol.

Other ways for game play now….the ever popular latest creation to technology…

 

The Smartphone(used to download all the latest in video games and applications)Classic games like PacMan, Frogger and Uno have been made available on these devices.  The only problem with these devices after long-time use, your device can sustain a virus or over-heat. 

10 of the best toys of the 70’s and 80’s…taking a look back! Can you name all 10?

Happy Playing!!

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Friendship…How many do you really have?

  The meaning of friendship to me is a person who is there for you through the good and the bad.  The people who call you for no reason to see how you are, catch up with you on current events and making sure you are doing well.  I have had my fair share of what I would call Friendships for the Moment because people have taken advantage of how generous I am and use me for the what they can get out of me.  Or the friendships that come from having something in common like one friend-those never last for me because everyone eventually goes off and is separated from the new person in the group. 

    Friendships are made when you are younger and also when you are older.   Personalities change and interests come with most friendships.  Most relationships can withstand the test of the time with living in the same neighborhood and sharing their lives together.  Friendships long ago used to last years but given the changing of people and the technology, it becomes increasingly harder to maintain a solid friendship these days. I have seen people on Facebook and Instagram rate their friendships by likes and comments on their posts and it causes people to unfriend.  Friendships are not based on likes, it is all about how we support one another through the good and bad times.  Supporting one another through achievements and failures is what is needed to show love to another.  

Friendships come in many forms from pets, family and couples.  Loyalty is the number one in friendships…which is so hard to find these days.  Love comes in many forms and recognizing it can be the beginning of a long lasting friendship.

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    In the past year, I have had the privilege of meeting some incredible people and am thankful everyday for their friendships.  I met a man 20 years ago who started out as my boss, then an acquaintance then….we all know how the story goes.  My husband of 20 years, we are best friends for life.  About 23 years ago, when I was 18,  I met a women who I never knew would make such an impact on my life to this day. We understand each other and have watched both our lives unfold -the good and the bad.  She has been there for me and still is.  Although we live miles away, she is my BFF for life and nothing will ever change that.  

To answer my question: How many friends do you have?  I have 2 Bff’s I love dearly .                                  

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31 Day Challenge-Day 3

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    Hey hey, its Day 3, its time to go back, way back, back in time to September 2018.  How did MMMoffamilyentertainment get its name?  Well, here it goes….

I always wanted to start a blog and just didn’t know how.  I researched and found WordPress which is phenomenal.  Next, I had to come up with a name.  I thought about the things I love which were my family, music, movies and anything that is fun.  When I started my blog, it was just about my family, musical concerts I attended and movies I recommend but then it occurred to me that I needed to broaden my audience a bit.  The rise of entrepreneurship inspired me to have a section for businesses to get their products out there. After doing that, I got an idea to feature inspirational people and then it grew from there.  So, the MMM that you hear is Music, Movies, and most of all Madness.  And for the other part, I am all about Entertainment!!  This is how MMMoffamilyentertainment was born.  

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How high can I go?

Hey hey guys, its LaFrieda, and I have been working on something that has got me so excited!! I love challenges and I am going to tell you guys what my next challenge is. I am challenging myself to get 500 followers by my one year anniversary of my blog which is in September!!

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I need your help!!

If you are a entrepreneur, blogger, inspired individual looking to advertise for free and get exposure, all you have to do is subscribe to my blog and Dm me your subscriber name, Thats it!!

I love helping and inspiring others and want to include everyone in my journey.

My blog has been nominated for Sunshine Blogger Awards twice and I have just been excepted in the organization of empowered women called P.O.W.E.R. Check out my latest blog post on Autism.

 

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Ive got the POWER!!

Just when you get to the point when you have given up….then you get that phone call. Everyday, I am usually not looking at my phone and looking to see whose calling but this particular day I was. That day, there had been a number that had been calling me over and over for about a month and I would never pick up. I have this rule..if you are not in my phonebook or I am not expecting your call, I don’t pick up. I listened to my voicemail and found out that my life was about to be blessed beyond comprehension.

I bet you guys are wondering what did they say in the message….here it goes..

“LaFrieda, you have been chosen to be accepted into our organization called P.O.W.E.R. We would like to congratulate you on being such an inspiring women of entrepreneurship along with your blog MMMoffamilyentertainment. We would like to speak to you as soon as possible when you receive this message.”

I dropped the phone…..I spoke to my advisor and she said that someone gave them my name and said that I was deserving of this honor♥️

I have been recognized by the P.O.W.E.R organization for inspirational writing!! P.O.W.E.R stands for Professional, Organization for Women Empowered Recognized. I am featured in this months magazine!!☺

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This magazine features beautiful and empowering women who are professionals and entrepreneurs including famous people!! Go to P.O.W.E.R Magazine.

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If you are part of the P.O.W.E.R organization check out my online profile and lets connect!!

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My weekend as a Queen…trip to New York City

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New York City...home of the Yankees, Statue of Liberty and the birthplace of rhythm and blues- Harlem.

   This was my second visit to New York.  I visited in December 2017 with my beautiful daughter Briana, who celebrated my birthday with me and got to experience for the first time New York city in the winter time.

 

  I left for New York on May 24, 2019 on Delta airlines, which there was a delay in take-off due to a gasket that needed to be replaced.  These planes come equip with in-flight movie and television selections and also complimentary drinks and snack of your choice.  I was able to capture the CitiField  baseball field when landing in New York.

 

When I arrived, I had to call my hotel for a shuttle, which was very convenient for me not having a car.  I stayed at the Extended Stay Suites in Queens.  It was located in flushing and the hotel was very nice. I didn’t get to do sites because of the distance, if I did get around it was Lyft and ordering through Grub Hub.  I f you ever stay in New York..stay in the city..it is less expensive and you can travel by subway like me and my daughter did the first time.  

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The next day, I was getting ready for the highlight of my trip..The Valerie’s Women’s Empowerment Group 1 year anniversary Gala!!  It was exciting to meet so many women who share the same heart as I do for others.  This group has been apart of my daily life since last year and the women who made it all possible and getting such incredible women together is Valerie Padilla.  She started this group May 25, 2018 and wanted to make a difference not only in women’s lives but help those in need in her community.  Check out my post in Getting Real section called ”You are a Queen today and everyday…women-empowering-each-other-2019″

 

  I had such a great night with all these ladies.  Everything was so elegant and beautifully done.  We all ate, drank, cried, danced, laughed and hugged alot.  I was so overwhelmed by how much everyone loved one another in sisterhood and lifted each other with touching speeches and memorable moments.

A heartfelt moment where I hadn’t even got out my seat and I started crying…..

 

Loving yourself and others unconditionally…Priceless” L.S

  Valerie gave out many trophies to her Queens that were close to her heart and this is me receiving mine for being that women who inspires her and continues to do wonderful things for others. It is truly amazing how self-less she is and how many lives she’s touched

The Guest of honor Queen Valerie wears many hats but she wore her crown that night….

 

She is a dedicated mom, wife, sister, best friend.

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   In leaving the party, I had some difficult getting my Lyft driver to pick me up in front of my address…which I couldn’t figure out for the life of me but I had these two ladies that helped me out tremendously and I thank them so much!! That is what women supporting each other is all about.

 

  The next day I was so tired but nothing is going to stop me from coming back.  I am so looking forward to what is next on journey…and the story is to be continued…..

 

Check out this group on Facebook clicking here Valerie Women’s Empowerment Group

Also on Instagram by clicking here Valerie s Women Empowerment Group

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Visit the city of New York with Times Square, Yankee and Mets Stadium, Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island.

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Awards night with fellow bloggers 2019…Take 2

  OMG…..I am so overwhelmed this week!! I have been nominated for the second time for the Sunshine Bloggers Award!!!

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  I was nominated by this blogger, her name is Mrs. Ski.  She loves anything outdoors from plants to herbs and spices and even nature life with the animals.  She can show you how to become one with your environment and take advantage of the green scenery.  I want to start growing veggies in my backyard and hope to learn alot from her.  Continue reading about her on her blog site -click here Outdoor with the Ski’s

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The Sunshine Blogger Award is an award received by fellow bloggers who feel that their peer exhibits the character writing of one who inspires and expresses positive messages throughout their blogs.

Rules for the Sunshine Blogger Award

  • Thank the person who nominated you and provide a link back to their blogging site.
  • List the Sunshine Blogger Award rules and display the logo on your site.
  • Answer the Sunshine Blogger Award questions.
  • Nominate 11 other bloggers and ask them 11 new questions.
  • Notify the nominees about their nominations

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Questions from Mrs. Ski

  1. Why do you love blogging?  I love to write about my experiences and share them with the world.  I believe that if one writes down in words and express their feelings about things, share ideas and go on adventures with others, it is very healthy for the mind and soul.
  2. What is your favorite hobby besides blogging?  I love to travel.  Wherever the wind wants to take me to I try to go.  I like experiencing new things and meeting different people and cultures.  I wish I had unlimited funds but hey you only have one life…live it up!!
  3. If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would it be?  Well, right now I am working on finally using my passport and travel to Puerto Rico with a group of wonderful ladies.  This will be my 1st time but if I wanted to just go on vacay for a week all-inclusive Hawaii for me!!
  4. Can you tell us a little bit about yourself and your blog?  I am a mom of three teens, wife and blogger full-time.  I recently retired after 23 years of retail after being disabled.  So I take care of my family and travel when I can to see the states.  My blog was inspired by my family of 5.  We are such a close family, not to say we don’t have our battles but I tend to write alot about our entertainment such as music, movies, sports in Florida and common everyday things that make me so proud of my family.  I also feature bloggers and entrepreneurs to add a business side to my blog to inspire others who want to find their passion.
  5. What is your favorite season?  Since I live here in Florida, we only have one season HOT….lol  What I can tell you is that because my wedding anniversary is in April, I love Spring…its the season of love for me.
  6. How often do you post in your blog?  I usually go in spurts and pull an all-niter where I will schedule at least 4-5 new posts per month depending on what is happening that month.  This week I worked on 5 posts and that will probably be it until the end of the month.
  7. Do you love blogging?  Most definitely!! I am avid in writing out my experiences and love to share with people.  I especially love when I post something that sets a light bulb off in someone’s head or makes them feel special and inspired after reading it.
  8. What is your favorite type of food?  I don’t have a favorite type but I am very picky when it comes to what goes in my mouth.  No room temperature, No legs on it or feet, Not the color of puke and it has to be neat on my plate otherwise I don’t even give it a second look.
  9. What got you started blogging?  A couple years ago I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I needed an outlet to give myself a purpose for getting up in the morning.  I’ve had alot of family tragedies over the past few years and this seemed to make me happy.  Today, I am doing so much better coping and my blog pieces have inspired and I have made countless amount of people happy.
  10. How did you choose your blog name?  Well, my blog is inspired by family entertainment so I knew that had to be in it.  Next, the topics I talked about had to have music and movies in it.  I had to come up with another M to describe my life of excitement and chaos at the same time so I came up with  M-music, M-movies and M-madness of Family Entertainment.
  11. What is your least favorite chore?  I do not like Nagging.  It seems that all we do daily is tell people to do the same thing over and over and they act like they are listening.  I have to add that to tasks to do daily on top of chores so I count that as a chore.

The Bloggers I have nominated for:

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  1. Garf – Morning Side Fit
  2. Paloma – Wander Through
  3. Brenda, Andrew and B Dish Our Town
  4. Elena Toma Beauty Magic Box
  5. Cindy Moore Cindy Goes Beyond
  6. Gina Smith Living the Smith Life
  7. Christine King Christine King
  8. Life, Travel and Soul Life Travel and Soul
  9. Christy Adventures of a Mom
  10. Ene Abah Belle Tammy Blog spot
  11. Paul McGinley Mr. Anything Goes

Questions for the Nominees:

  1. What is your favorite time of the day to eat?
  2. Who do you most credit for the success of your blog?
  3. If you could change one thing you did yesterday, what would it be?
  4. If you had to live in one climate, which one would it be Hot or Cold?
  5. Do you like to cook?
  6. In your travels, what was your favorite place to visit and why?
  7. What is something you are dreaming about doing in this lifetime?
  8. Have you ever been to all 50 states?
  9. What was the best thing that ever happened to you?
  10. What is your favorite cuisine?
  11. Name one thing that inspires you when you blog?

Thank you everyone for being so inspiring.  I love all these blogs for the passion for traveling and living life to the fullest!!

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